declaimer: it’s not a guide or even any advise, it’s just a personal feeling regarding the relationship in Phnom Penh city, so don’t take it as the right step to make. you are the only one person who decide and responsible if you decide to go on a date some day. i wish you all good luck.
definition: a date between two people (normally between: girl and boy, man and woman) who have never previously met.
purpose: to find someone that could become later your girlfriend or maybe finally just a friend.
process: you can’t just see someone interesting down the street and go to talk to her, ask for a date. it’s not impossible.
various person might arrange it for you: a friend, a relative, your family or your colleague… it depends
or if it happen to you that nobody introduce anyone to you, let’s try the social network such as: facebook, hi5, myspace or any others social networks that you might know better than me. create an account there, fill up the profile (it’s always good to put your real name, your real profile, better than just being a fake one, but be careful to reserve your privacy).
find the person amount the members, the person that you are interested, person who got the same passion, add them as the friends.
with social network, it’s more convenient than the person that introduced by a friend, a relative, your family or your colleague because you might learn more from her profile, her personality, activity and much more through her profile.
by exchange message, go chit chat online for a while, you might considerate a person that you think you know enough and you want to go and see the person, so mean you are going to a blind date.
blind date is not a bad thing, not at all. but most of the time to all the people, it’s some kind of tremble and a bit nervous. but you can make it easy, calm down and considerate as a normal situation. don’t expect that all the person that you meet on the blind date will become your girlfriend. it’s just a possibility. it could happen or it could not. it depends on what you feel after you go on the blind date.
when: lunch time is also possible but dinner might be the suitable time for a blind date. you can do at any day of the week after office hour or school, or even better at the week-end, Saturday or Sunday, around 6.30 or 7 pm…
where: you should find a suitable place such as (i started from the low budget to high, so you can considerate up to your budget): Khmer Surin Restaurant, Malis, Open Wine, Van’s restaurant and topaz (at topaz you might pay as much as you have dinner in Paris, so you can imagine the price, but the place is great).
so considerate you have chosen the place and convenient time and date, i think it would be nice if you just call the person just before going on the first date, just to create some conversation.
conversation: you might see already the photo of the person, or even if you can’t imagine how she look like, the good advise is don’t expect anything from the first date, you just go there having a dinner, chit chat with a new friend. then it will make your more comfortable in taking even the person you met for the first time is not the person you expect her or him to be, you need to order foods, drink, chit chat with anything. please don’t try to ask any personal question at the first date. you just talking in general, about the work, the place, the movie anything that you are good at it. you might observe at the same time how much the person interested in what you are passionate on.
staying late: if the conversation going well, you feel good about each other, after dinner you might ask for going on a drink somewhere else, it is totally depend on the situation, you might not do it at the first day or by miracle the person might feel good back to you and he or she want to stay late too, so i recommend few place where you can have a drink together: Ponton, The Riverhouse, Elsewhere, FCC the cocktails might cost about from 2 to 4 USD, it depends but you can always look at the menu.
result: the important is what you feel after the blind date, do you want to see her again? do you still feel good after meeting her for the first time? whatever the result, you should call or text the message, tell her that you have a great evening with her, and you might call her again in next few days.
if you really like her and want to continue the relationship, you know what to do.
the difficulty is you want to stop, what you should do? i know you won’t gonna call her again. she might know the result if you didn’t call her as you said, but if she still call, mean she like you and she want to go on, let’s pick up the call and talk, you can always find excuse with works or you were very busy these days. please keep in mind, she can become your good friend, even there’s no possibility that you see her as a girlfriend, but keep yourself as a friend for the time being, soon or later she might understand about this. believe me that she will not going to catch you or force you to be her boyfriend, but she might not be able to forget you yet. then you can be her normal friend or she might never call you again.
it doesn’t mean that she is the bad person because you don’t feel anything right about her, it is just because she is not the right person, she might make other person feel right about her, she probably make another blind date as same as you.
If need more advise, i found this interesting Blind Date Survival Guide
Good luck to everybody.
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Very interesting article khmerbird. I think i won’t try to play this game hehe.
Again i want to say it is good that you post this article.