The brave pig is still undecided
To dive or not to dive? That is the question…
Photo by Emiliano
I saw bravery is many action films. Braveheart of Mel Gibson is one of the films I remember. I believe Cambodian need to be brave, brave of being who we are, brave to live our lives, brave to die for what we believe in.
I think self-development of each citizen is more important than changing a regime or government. Cambodia belongs to all of us, not only to the politicians or to a small group of people. If everyone understand their role and duty to move Cambodia forward, we will move more faster.
When each individual in this country consider Cambodia belongs to all of us, anything can be done.
I write this post because of my personal reflections to the events happened around me. It is easy to read the news and follow what is happening. But I hope people will also ask questions why it happened and how to prevent not to let it happen again.
I tried to look at 3 types of bravery that are missing in Cambodian society. Those lacks of bravery might also push some people to do bad thing rather than good thing. I am sure we still lack of bravery in many other areas, you can mention about them in the comment box!
Here is the definition of bravery according to Wikipedia:
Bravery: n. is the ability to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty, or intimidation.
Brave of being who we are
I heard a story being told by a friend. In a small village somewhere in Cambodia, there’s a poor family. Their living condition is hard. Sometime they don’t even have enough food to feed their kids. I don’t remember in which occasion exactly, the parents spend all the money they have to buy and prepare food to bring to pagoda without caring their own kids who have nothing to eat at home.
I have nothing against the Buddhist but if their action is just to show that they are not poor, this is completely wrong.
It is just an example. The main concern is that Cambodian want to have what others have. Some even want to have something that others cannot have.
To fulfill this need, people need to find their own way to get the money. It is good if they do it in a right way but what if the right way doesn’t work or need more effort than the wrong way?
I dream that one day, all Cambodian will accept the real fact of who they are.
Brave to live our lives
I heard many stories of broken wedding. There are many couples broke up after few weeks of wedding. The main problem, if I understand well, is because they are scared to tell their parents who they really love.
If you love the man who make up his hairs like Korean star, tell your parents!
If you love the man who pick you up everyday at school with his Range Rover, tell your parents!
Because soon or later you cannot hide this kind of thing. You cannot escape from the reality. It will follow you everywhere like your shadow.
This is just a small example.
I can feel that there are a lot of people who live somebody else’s live. I read often stories on the newspapers/magazines that some famous stars or Karaoke girls who need to do some kind of business that they don’t like but it is because they want to earn money to support their family.
But you also have a life to live my dear!
I dream that one day, all Cambodian can live their own lives.
Brave to die for what we believe in
Few days ago, a video clip shocked the whole nation. It was a robbery in a public place where there were vendors, motors and cars circled around.
One of the robber made three shots to the victim at a corner of the street to take $30, 000. No one reacted to the situation. The 3 robbers left the scene without rushing.
This is an example where we need bravery and courage to help each other. We can’t just let them walk away like this.
It made me think of what Jon Swain wrote on his book “River of Time” :
Even today, after years of suffering, the Cambodians do not have a strong sense of caring for their fellow men.
I hope Cambodian people, after being scare of killing and murder in the past, can start to stand up again and believe in doing something good to others and their country.
We don’t believe in anything today. We don’t believe in doing good will return good. We don’t believe every small action that come from each individual could make a big change to the society.
Cambodia, after all, need to make a lot of examples to encourage and give reward to people who are brave to help people in such situation. We call those people “Heroes”.
The heroes will sacrifice their lives for others or for what they believe in! We need to set examples and make more heroes.
ZHANG Yimou, a famous Chinese film direction, said: heroes are made, not born.
This is only my personal idea that might make a change in Cambodian society. I dream that one day, all Cambodian are brave to die for what they believe in.
Do you make any dream lately? Can you share if you make any dream about Cambodia?